“I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand.” ~ Confucius
Do you ever stop to observe your own thoughts and behaviors, to observe yourself and your life? Do you ever wonder why you are doing whatever it is that you are doing? Do you ever stop and observe the world? Most of us live our lives on autopilot, and we rarely or never stop and question the way we live our lives and why we live the way we do.
Here are 10 things you should always remember as you go through this journey of life:
1. Change Is The Only Constant In Life
What does this mean? It means that no matter how much we try to avoid change, it will be impossible to do so, since change is the only constant in life.
“The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.” ~ C. JoyBell C.
2. Nothing Lasts Forever
Nothing ever lasts forever, and this is exactly why we need to learn to detach from things, places and people in our lives and, when the time comes to say goodbye, to let them all go and to do it with dignity.
“Nothing lasts forever, so live it up, drink it down, avoid the b.s, take chances and never regret because at one point it was what you wanted.” ~ Unknown
3. You Judge Others for the Things You Haven’t Accepted in Yourself
The traits we dislike in others are the traits we dislike in ourselves. This is something most of us can’t even grasp and we get irritated when we hear such things, especially when we are all thinking so highly of ourselves and we know for sure that we are perfect and they are not.
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to a better understanding of ourselves.” ~ Carl Jung
4. You Can’t Force Love
Love comes because it wants to come, not because we want it to come. Our family, friends, co-workers, lovers — they all love us because they choose to, not because we want them to, and the same applies to you. Love is meant to be felt, enjoyed and lived, not to be forced on anyone.
“You can’t force love, I realized. It’s there or it isn’t. If it’s not there, you’ve got to be able to admit it. If it is there, you’ve got to do whatever it takes to protect the ones you love.” ~ Richelle Mead
5. Mistakes are Part of Life
As you walk through life, you will fall down many times. You will fail and you make mistakes, but that’s okay. Life is like that. Never forget that life is a process of becoming and that through every every painful and humiliating experience and through every hurtful and heartbreaking interaction, you craft yourself and you build your life. Through everything that happens to you, either good or bad, you gain all the wisdom, strength, knowledge and confidence to do the things that you are meant to do. And to live the life that you are meant to live. That’s what life is all about.
“What do you first do when you learn to swim? You make mistakes, do you not? And what happens? You make other mistakes, and when you have made all the mistakes you possibly can without drowning – and some of them many times over – what do you find? That you can swim? Well – life is just the same as learning to swim! Do not be afraid of making mistakes, for there is no other way of learning how to live!” ~ Alfred Adler
6. What You Resist, Persists
The more we fight against certain things, life circumstances, events, people, ideas, etc., the more we will be contributing to their growth and persistence into our daily lives. Learn to shift your focus from that which you are against to that which you are for, and to that which you wish to attract into your daily life and watch how your life will be transformed.
“What you resist not only persists, but will grow in size.” ~ Carl Gustav Jung
7. Your Thoughts Create your Reality
Thoughts have power, great power – creative power. With every thought that you think you craft and shape your life in one way or another. The life you are now living is the result of all the thoughts you have thought up until this moment. Your present level of self esteem, your confidence and your sense of self worth were determined by all the thoughts you have ever thought and all the words you have ever said to yourself. The quality of your present relationships, the way you look at the world, your beliefs and limitations, your fears and insecurities, they are all the result of the many thoughts you kept affirming to yourself.
We are where we are right now because of the thoughts we thought, and our lives look the way they do because of the thoughts we thought over and over again. If the thoughts that run though our minds are pure, positive and empowering, we will create positive and empowering beliefs about ourselves and about life, and our actions will be a reflection of these thoughts and beliefs.
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words. Watch your words, for they become actions. Watch your actions, for they become habits. Watch your habits, for they become character. Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.” ~ Unknown
8. There Comes A Time In Your Life When You Really Need To Let Go
“There comes a time in your life when you have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy.” ~ Karl Marx (composer)
There comes a time in our lives when we are asked to let go of certain things, ideas, people and places. And when that happens, we need to learn to let go with grace. We need to trust our natural instincts and we need to trust in the natural flow of life. Because just like Buddha said it, “You can only lose what you cling to.”
9. You’ll Only Regret the Things you Don’t Do
Whenever you want to do something but you are too afraid to do it because of what might happen after that, I want you to remember about this study that was performed on elderly individuals a few years back, that has shown how during old age, most of these people have regrets about the many things they didn’t have the courage to do as opposed to the things they did do.
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” — Mark Twain
10. You Can’t Control Other People’s Behaviors, You Only Think You Can
It’s funny how the closer we are to a person the more rights we think we have to control them and their lives without realizing the only thing we can control is our attitude towards them and their behavior, that’s all.
“Never underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.” ~ Wayne W. Dyer
Source: “10 Things You Should Always Remember,” from purposefairy.com, by Luminita D. Saviuc